rickschroe wrote:So, I realize this is a very personal decision, but I was hoping folks on this board might have suggestions or advice for us. Thanks in advance.
OK but first you gotta tell us if you are THAT Rick Schroeder ??? Only joking. ( but if you are..I loved Silver Spoons and just about everything since !! )
Advice : What does Mom want ? I would weigh this heavily, and a repeat c-scope and recheck in 6 mo. will likely not be too much to ask. A second opinion would also be reasonable in this situation.
Macular degen. & managing a stoma : Is she having severe clinical signs now ?? you need to weigh the pros and cons of what will be worse ..for her..about losing a degree of control over herself, privacy issues about ileo, or a deteriorating medical condition ???? All depends on her personality and determination. Is she going to still be able to stay in her home ? Are there other health concerns or signs of dementia which may affect her wellbeing ???
Good doctors want to help their patients with what they think is the best option for better health. The best doctors will also weigh the fact that some patients need to be given what they can HANDLE...not necessarily what the doc thinks they need. Not an easy road to travel. ( I've been a vet for 30 years and believe me, I have had this discussion with owners, weekly, for all 30 years. )
Just the surgery itself would also be worthy of very serious consideration for someone of her age. Will it prolong her life or enhance her quality of life for her remaining years ???? Again not easy discussions when it is your mother.
Hope I have not touched too "personal" nerves here, but I have aging parents going through the same issues and a M-I-L in a nursing home with advancing dementia and macular degen. I think if you feel the whole surgery option is too much and your mom really doesn't want to go the route...then I think you have your answer.
Hoping things work out for your family
Cheers, In Harmony