Postby Erika » Sat Dec 03, 2005 11:29 am
Brad-
You brought up such a great question. With so much focus on treatments, insurance, how I was getting to the doctor each week, etc, it didn't occur to me that the transition out of that phase into post-chemo and surgeries would be so difficult. In fact, I'd have to say I was way unprepared for the emotional aftermath. I "returned" to life and thought I could carry on as if nothing happened, but no. I think that is when I realized how ALONE I was in this. I had no one who had been through this so young to talk to, to hear his/her experience, to share mine. I sort of walked around in a haze for a couple years, partly stunned from what happened, partly afraid the cancer would come back any minute, but mostly without any directions for how to carry on.
She's very humble about it, but meeting Molly (see four replies above) changed my life. Finally someone who understood! I have to fully concur with what numerous survivors have said above- the support of others like us who have been down this road is so important. Having said that, it's still tough and we're each different and have different cirucumstances in life so it won't be the same for you as it was for me. And Maggie's right, normal is what you make it. Cancer doesn't necessarily take away your hobbies or interests, but you might feel different while doing those things because of what you've been through. It takes some sorting out, self-reflection.
I have learned something from each survivor I've met, but in general I've seen that life goes on and that each of us makes a conscious choice to move forward and make the best of cancer. We will likely still have bad days, get pissed at times that it happened, and even sweat the small stuff sometimes, but overall we have an outlook, a perspective, a life experience that lives with us everyday and pushes through that stuff.
Cancer sucks, but you are special. And we're all glad you're here to listen to us, to help us, to understand like only another young colon cancer can. And, by the way, I'm 27, and a Stage IV survivor also- so rock on Dude!
All the best,
Erika