Vicki, i'm so sorry to hear about Dennis.

oh Patty, I'm so sorry for your loss. it does seem to be a lot of us all at once. so sorry he had to go through pain. it still all seems kind of unreal.

I have to come up with a couple of charities to list in Tom's obit. I would like to list this board, is there an address people could send donations to or just the PayPal button? also, had anyone ever heard of colon cancer association (cca) or fight colo-rectal cancer? both get high marks on charity...

thank you all for your sentiments. it is a tough time, And holiday season doesn't help it any. you have been very helpful and supportive during these 2 years of struggle, it meant a lot that I could always come here for help.

yes. his brother and I were watching a movie on the other room. He had been breathing fine but sleeping all day. I went to check on him and reposition him, But he had gone. I had so wanTed to b be there, But he had other plans. earlier b today the hospice nurse was thinking we probably had around a ...

he snuck out while I watched a movie with his brother tonight. my rock is gone and I feel broken. I don't know how to do this.

oh Helen I am so sorry.

oh Helen (hugs). how tough it is. I think it is another step on that path, as is a period of agitated activity. at least that's what my brother in law went v through when he passed in July. I'm told is pretty common. our onc told me that he would just sleep more and v more and likely fade out in his...

hes not on morphine yet. we've got it, but so far he only needs Tylenol 4 at night for pain management. but ib sleep upstairs and he now sleeps downstairs abd his voice us very weak at the best of times. W e were going to try using walkie talkies, but i don't know where they are. he had his cell pho...

bev, I'm so sorry about your step mom (I have one just like that though she's only 85). grief is tough enough at the best of times and you're not going through those right now. Glad to hear Steve is doing some better. hope you're hanging in ok too!

yes he's on hospice. Not entirely sure what c they can do other than supply things. they brought a bed for him but he doesn't like it: the air pockets are bumpy and leave v great dents in his swollen legs. social v worker said something about getting a foam topper instead but I don't know how long t...

oh gawds what is wrong with me? I've been watching Tom fade so much this year, I can't remember what he looKed like last year! of course I recognize him in photos, but I can't look at him and see him the way he used to be. he fell a couple of nights ago, going to the bathroom, so he's been using the...

oh Party, I am so there with you! I feel the same way. I have absolutely no holiday spirit this year. Tom's brother is staying with me got the duration so I'm not alone, and we watch christmas shows just because is a tiny slice of normal -"but I'm not feeling anyof it. I don't v even want to go...

Vickie, I'm surprised hospice lets you do any of that! when we first looked at hospice, they wouldn't even allow IV iron or mag! we had to wait until the onc said there was nothing more they could do before hospice would come in. I never heard of those trials. And they'll take someone on hospice? we...

tws, we dI'd. last new year we moved from MD to NH. it meant we had to leave our onc whom we loved and find a new one up here. we love th staff in both places though we liked it orig onc better (current is Perfectly move, but first guy c was l great) Cornish is in NH, it's where Maxfield Parrisj, th...